As previously I had always felt butterflies in my stomach as I feared how the night ahead would unfold, it took years to get over weight, i have when I go AF. Thanks for the comment and reblog, i became beset by a black mood and the doubts began to creep in. Who also travelled to Syria.
I’m slowly getting into a routine of sleeping and waking, it is like losing weight. I don’t even want to be bored.
Good luck, stay in touch and let me know how you get on. This was a great post to read. I hope you continue to enjoy my blog.
I just read your story and I have to say that it is very helpful. It would have been perhaps easier to jump straight from Stage 1 to Stage 4, but the journey has allowed me to learn so much about who I really am, minus the veneer of alcohol, and I wouldn’t have missed it out even if I could have.
Where are Abu Dhabi’s best family beaches? At this time I am writing my dissertation and enjoy reading and learning what it takes to become sober and remain. We stormed up to the pub together and he ordered himself a pint and sat outside. Anyways, excellent stuff and I’m glad it was re-blogged as I may not have seen it.
I should know by now, by fault of repetition, that it is impossible for me. There are thousands of people over at Soberistas.
However, unless you can get to a place where you really WANT to live without alcohol, and you don’t feel in any way that this is something that has been forced on you, you won’t succeed. I really like how you broke it down into four stages. I just go out and drink?
El Shafee Elsheikh, right, pictured as a 15-year-old with his mother Maha Elgizouli and younger brother Mahmoud, who also travelled to Syria. I became after too much wine. Hi, that’s great to read! We rely on advertising to help fund our award-winning journalism.
I drove it out and replaced my addiction with happiness and good health. I scuttled up to the bar after he had taken his seat, my heart beating ferociously and my cheeks burning. You are commenting using your Twitter account. Am a big believer that we HAVE to live Amongst drink as its a drinking Culture we can’t hide away the AA way.
I was stuck in that stage on so many occasions before I gave up drinking for good. I have attempted many times only to last a month or 2, and for me, trying to understand the emotional roadmap ahead is of such great importance to understanding what it’s like to really stay with it. In a world that has so much to offer, I don’t even want to be bored.
Sounds like it has good insights I could use. I was planning on drinking that night.
I have when I go AF. I’ve been without the devil now for 3 years. Do you have a jack Russell too?
My thoughts on being teetotal, before I saw the light. He tried in vain to convince me that it was the addiction talking, but how could it be? I just try to have two glasses of wine instead of ten, I’ll be fine. Ice dancers Tessa Virtue and Scott Moir of Canada perform their short dance as part of the figure skating team event at the 2018 Winter Olympic Games at the Gangneung Ice Arena.
The devil fell away from my shoulder, but nothing replaced him for a long time. But then what does one do if you don’t go out to eat and drink with friends, and who are your friends now. Jason Vale’s book has been my saviour.
Went to AA but wasn’t for me. In the past, I completely eliminated it, but then found that if I slipped, the perfectionist in me would beat myself up so much that it was tough to get back onboard. But with every time you do say no, it will get a tiny bit easier, until eventually it becomes your new normal. I genuinely don’t know what will happen then.
I suddenly saw alcohol for what it really is, and I knew that all those voices and cravings I had felt over the last year or so were as a result of slowly weaning myself off a very powerful and prevalent, socially acceptable drug. Now I couldn’t be happier. It is incredibly difficult in the early days, I feel your frustration!
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I love The Soberistas Ways they are far more healthy upon the mind. Who is he to think he can control you? If everyone else can do it, why can’t I? OMG never read anything so true to my situation, thank you so much.
Thanks for sharing your story. This was a very difficult stage. I was scared to stop.
You are commenting using your Facebook account. This is a great post explaining what it’s like going from alcoholic to sobriety. I will get that book you mentioned. What is bitcoin, how does it work and what affects its price?
I really enjoyed this post. Post was not sent – check your email addresses! I am newly sober for the 50000000th time. I turned a corner that night and all doubt was removed.
My memory is suffering and I am out of my training plan to run my first half marathon. Loved this post and this article!
Thankful that I found yoga, i don’t drink, I go to meetings, I practice yoga. Totally boils down what I’ve been experiencing, that’s for sure.
But in the end, I think you have to weigh up the negatives and positives, and my list of negatives was growing longer by the day. You will find loads of support and like-minded people on there, and it’s free to join.
I wanted to sit outside pubs in the summer, laughing gaily over a big glass of icy cold white wine. Thanks so much for your wonderfully upbeat response to my blog!
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Hi Chelsea, thanks for your comment. I am just thinking its time for me too, to start a new journey.
Can I ask how long was it from stoppping to reaching stage 4? I felt it wouldn’t affect me or anyone else around me.
Also, can you take up a hobby as a means of distraction to get you through Stages 2 and 3? What if I just need to learn how to moderate?
I stayed on the road to self-discovery and a better life, or if I returned hell for leather to that old path of destruction. I am so glad that you banished your demons, and that you took the time to share your experiences here. When you are sober you have all the best intentions and then as soon as you have a couple of drinks, your resolve weakens because alcohol is a drug. I am teetering between 2 and 3 right now.
It has helped me a LOT. Lucy, I have just joined soberistas. I’m taking a different approach this time, and doing a lot more thinking and analyzing throughout the process.
It is like losing weight. For a while now I knew it was time to stop and finally I knew it was time.
Stage 4 is the best, is a bit like coming out of a long tunnel and finally seeing the light and knowing that it was all so worth it. I’m slowly getting into a routine of sleeping and waking, which really helps.
Thanks for the reblog and stick with it. Were clogged printers to blame for Chicago’s high crime rate in the early 1990s? Thanks for this, and for the follow.
My sobriety is in the infant stages at only 3 weeks, but the clarity and raw emotions are sometimes so heavy, I’m not sure how I got to this place. Good luck on your journey, I wish you all the best.
It was slowly building a black hole for my future and the possible loss of my kids and fiancée. My husband can moderate having only one or two glasses I can’t and I fear that I am going to get breast cancer or damage my relationship with my husband and son. Congrats on almost 2 years!
Great post I relate to all of it. I just read your running entry as well as this one. After a couple of months, I became beset by a black mood and the doubts began to creep in.
It took years to get over weight, but we want to see twenty pounds off the next day. This was a really great explanation of the four stages.
I just recently put the drink down for good. Congratulations on your New life! I can certainly relate to the four stages you mention. What’s The Deal-Breaker in Your Relationship With Alcohol?
I’m gonna keep following the site and try with all my power to never go back. Are you a member of Soberistas. I have to constantly remind myself to just give my mind and body a break — to go through the process of feeling bored and finding something productive to fill that space instead of running round for a bottle of wine or vodka to anesthetize myself. Quitting Drinking Isn’t Just About No More Hangovers.
Thank you for this blog, I’m going into my 3rd week of not drinking wine that I love so much. So I am very new at this new life.
I travelled through in the 23 months between my last drink and today, and I hope that it might help those of you who are new to sobriety by giving you a bit of a heads up of what to expect in this new and exciting chapter of your life. Lucy, Thank you for this. I love the fact that you have a Jack Russell, AND her name is Lucy, so maybe I should take it as a sign! Over the last couple of years I have worked through many emotions and feelings of regret, sadness, anger, bitterness, sorrow, remorse, jealousy and fear.